Being Oblivious To the Obvious

There is something that has been bothering me a lot lately. I’m going to let you read a letter that I wrote to one of my best friends and I’ll explain why this is pertinent in just a moment:

“Dear Katie,

Thank you so much for everything you’ve done for me. Katie, you are so awesome and I’m just so thankful for that. Dude, thanks that I can just come to you when I’m hurting and you’ll be right there to listen. Best friend, I’m so grateful, Katie, that you don’t judge me for the things I’ve done wrong, but for who I am to you. Katie, I’m so thankful that our friendship goes deeper than most friendships do. You and I, Katie, are like sisters and no matter where life takes us, Katie, I know you’ll always have my back. Thank you for making me a better person. Friend, I’m just so grateful that you are one of my best friends.”

Ok, so you might have been wondering what was going on with all of the names being thrown in to each sentence. You might have just tried to ignore it and continued to read it or it might have annoyed you to the point of not being able to finish reading it. Sorry about that (kind of, but not really). Let me explain.

The letter was obviously to my friend, Katie. I wanted to thank her for everything she has done for me and for being one of my best friends. You, as the unfamiliar reader, do not know what all that entails and that’s okay because Katie and I both know what all she has done for me and that’s all that matters considering the letter was written to her.

Does the letter remind you of anything? I wrote it and made it sound similar in nature to how many people pray. Most of the time people overuse proper nouns when they are praying. One of the Ten Commandments states that we should not misuse God’s name. This not only means that we should not pair God’s name with inappropriate words, but it also means that we should not insert His name in places they should not go. Many times when we pray, we insert the words “God, Lord God, and Father God”. A lot of us don’t even realize that we insert those words in our prayers, but we do. When we use terms that describe God or even say His name when we are praying, we need to do so intentionally. If we insert God’s names into our prayer when we don’t even need to, we are misusing His name. He already knows what His name is, so there is no need for us to remind him 20 times in a thirty-second long prayer.

The letter that you read at the beginning wasn’t a real letter that was written to Katie, but hopefully you can see how it ties in. If I say the terms “Katie, best friend, friend, etc.” a bunch of times in a letter or in general conversation with Katie, I would sound like I don’t know who I’m talking to. When people use the terms “God, Lord God, Dear God, etc.” many times during a prayer, it seems like they don’t know whom they are talking to.

I feel that often times when we pray, we go through the motions and don’t really take the time to be intentional with our words. We use a lot of filler words. The purpose of prayer isn’t to sound like we know what we’re talking about or know what we’re trying to say. The purpose of prayer is to know Whom we’re talking to. By talking to God, we get to grow closer to His heart and we start to understand a tiny bit of who He is.

Talk to God and let Him hear what’s on your heart. You’re talking to the Creator of the universe. As scary as that sounds, He is also your Heavenly Father who loves to hear you talk to Him. Just be real with Him and act like you’re talking to your best friend. He knows you better than you know yourself. You don’t have to address Him a million times in a conversation and you don’t have to be formal. Just talk to God and be sincere. He knows you and your heart.

Now don’t get me wrong, I think it’s great when people actually mean it when they address God multiple times when they are praying and they actually know that they’re saying it. I don’t think the problem lies within the words themselves, but how they are being used. My point is, don’t use God’s names as filler words and be intentional about what we say.


Two Of the Biggest Unknowns

One thing that a lot of people think about is their future and what they feel called to do in life. We try to plan our life based on what we think we are called to do. Often times, we stress out about our future because we aren’t sure what our calling is. We worry that we will fall short of what we are supposed to do because we aren’t exactly sure what we are supposed to do. I’m going to try to give a different perspective on what I think “finding your calling” means and how that translates into our lives.

Instead of our calling being something that we do, I think it is who we are meant to be. God may have seemingly meaningless or random things for us to do or experience, but these things are only going to make sense for the person He made you to be.

God’s calling isn’t to do something, but to be someone.

If we focus on our future and what we think we want to be, we might miss out on what is going on right now. God has plans for our present and our future. If we aren’t careful, the future that we always think we are going to have will sneak up on us and we might miss out on different life experiences. The future isn’t always about tomorrow or ten years from now because we aren’t even promised tomorrow. We need to live in the present and don’t waste the moments we are given. God has a purpose for each moment. Find that purpose and use it.

Sometimes things we do might seem pointless or unimportant, but they all have a part in our story. We are meant for more than dreaming of our future only to realize that the future is barely more than wishful thinking or dreaming. We don’t have full control of our future or what happens to us. While it is incredibly important to have goals and dreams, I think our future and our lives are more than the dreams and goals that we set for ourselves. I think our future is composed of every single thing we’ve ever done. Our goals and dreams are things that drive us and motivate us to be the kind of people we want to be. Instead of focusing all of our energy on the actual tasks that reaching those goals and dreams requires, we should focus on learning from the situations and people around us. We shouldn’t let those goals and dreams define us, but let them inspire us.

Our future is now. Every moment is the future we have been dreaming of.

Growing up I had many different goals and dreams. When I was 17, I had no clue what I wanted to do and I was so scared that I was not going to find what I thought God was calling me to do. Now, at 20, I’m a senior in college and will be graduating this coming May with a B.S. in Sport Management. I spent a lot of time in high school trying to figure out what major I thought God wanted me to study in college. I was so worried that I would miss any little clue that I thought He was sending me, that I’m sure I missed out on opportunities to learn be content with where I was at. I failed to put my calling and my future in God’s hands.

I’ve noticed that a lot of times we are always living for the betterment of our future when our future, as important as it is, is something that we can’t predict. My point is that we should go where God is telling us to go and do what He is telling us to do regardless if it’s in our plans or not.  Be where you are and be content and when God tells you to move, you obey Him. When we obey God, we fulfill our calling. We shouldn’t focus only on building a great future because we don’t have a lot of control over the future. God can call us to different places that we may not plan for so be bold and willing to go different places and do different, unexpected things. Things happen in our lives to allow us to grow as people. Take advantage of those things and chase your dreams. God gave them to you for a reason. Just don’t let those dreams define you.

Your calling isn’t to go somewhere or work somewhere…that’s just part of the journey. At the end of your life, if you have loved God and loved others in the way that God has made you to do so, I think you’ve obeyed and lived out your calling.

What Does Goodbye Human Mean?

So what is the deal with the title Goodbye Human? It sounds kind of like I’m ready to kick everyone out of my life and go live with animals, but I assure you, this is not the case. Over the course of my short, 20 years of life, I’ve observed a lot of different people’s ways of life, how they think, how they conduct themselves, and what they deem is most important in their lives. Often times, people do what think society will accept or admire. This is why everyone strives to fit in. They want to be socially accepted by their peers and even people they don’t know. We are all guilty of doing things in order to be accepted by someone or a group of people. We often do this subconsciously.

What I want to accomplish in this blog is relatively simple, yet complex. I want to, in essence, say goodbye to what I know about the faulty side of the human race, while acknowledging that we all are faulty and make mistakes and that’s completely okay, and say hello to what God says should define human beings. People are made for more than just fitting in. If we were supposed to fit the norm, we all would be made the same. God has given us all different talents, likes, and dislikes in order that we all might be different and that we might glorify Him in different ways.

My goal for this blog is to not be demeaning in any way to anyone, but to allow myself and others grow as human beings in our spiritual lives, personal lives, and our perspectives about certain topics and situations. I believe that life is a never-ending journey of learning new things and experiencing new adventures and situations. All of these things combined will help us say goodbye to our selfish desires and say hello to the people who God has called to be.